SHOULD YOUR SPOUSE BE YOUR BEST FRIEND?
Wise move, huge mistake or wishful thinking?
~Here is another perspective on making your partner your best friend.
This is by Stephanie Anderson on one of my favorite Marriage Blogs,
Stephanie does agree with me that the attitude we display when talking
or even arguing with our partner is very important in how that message
We must remember to be respectful!
So, continuing on with my question above –
I have heard many couples claim that their spouse is their best friend,
however, I tend to doubt that assertion and feel that if that is indeed the
case, then they are probably making an avoidable mistake …
The intimate relationship between couples is such an intense mix of emotions
it will not be well served by repeatedly “letting it all hangout” which is what
most of do with our best friends.
Our best friend usually knows everything we do, think and feel at any given
moment of every single day.
This has always been what best friends are for and with new technology and
social media this outpouring can literally happen instantaneously.
They are privy to our every extremes of highs and lows and everything in
Most often it is the women in the relationship who make this claim that
their man is their best friend.
Although men sometimes do as well …
Regardless, I think this is an unnecessary mistake and a strain on the
These are my reasons:
- Romance, which is integral in a relationship between couples is almost impossible to maintain when there is no mystery and even a little “intrigue” !
- You will need someone to rant to when things are “not perfect” between you and your spouse. That is the role of a trusted best friend.
- Why put all your emotional eggs in one basket and risk being overwhelmed with feelings of rejection and abandonment if things don’t work out as you wish.
Please don’t misunderstand me, I am not saying that you should not be friends with your spouse.
You should be very good friends, lovers, partners, teammates and each others champions.
But you are still individuals and need some space and objectivity once in awhile.
This is something you hope to find in a best friend when you need it.
In my eBook “Getting From Hello To Forever Together” there is a chapter that
addresses this question more fully. It is available on Amazon for your Reader...
A Must Watch – The Single Most Important Thing to a Man
That’s the reaction I had after I finished watching this amazing new video …
One of the hottest new dating coaches, James Bauer, created this video to explain to women what the single most important thing is to a man in a relationship …
I’m certain that what it is will really surprise you.
It certainly surprised me.
(guys really are more complicated than we women think, yet easier to understand than we make it).
After he reveals what this most important thing, James then shows you what you can do to trigger this critical emotion in your guy to draw him closer to you and make him almost addicted to you for the long-term.
What I love most about what James explains is that it’s nothing manipulative. It’s a basic human need that happens to be MUCH more important to men than to women which is why we women so often overlook this…and accidentally send great guys running.
Wishing you constant romance in your relationship!
P.S. Hope you had a wonderful time for the Holiday Season. We had a big
noisy get together at my in-laws.
P.P.S. I already tried out James’s advice on my husband at it really worked! Give it a try with your guy tonight…
Click to Watch – ‘The Single Most Important Thing to a Man’ (link)