As a matter of fact this is one of the most often cited reason why men claim they pull away and have affairs.
Not because the other women is prettier or smarter or richer or sexier, etc.
But simply because this other woman makes him feel valued, validated and appreciated.
In other words she makes him feel good by providing an environment that he does not want to pull away from.
Yes, it is true that there are some jerks out there who seem unable to commit
long-term and only want a one-sided relationship in which they use women to make themselves seem important.
I am not talking about those poor souls who need help and counseling.
The kind of men I mean are good decent men who want a real relationship
with a good loving woman.
No one wants to pull away from what makes them feel good and your man is
If a man starts to pull away from you, it does not mean that he does
not want a relationship – it means he does not want the relationship
that he sees developing and instead of talking it out with you he
withdraws and pulls away.
The worst thing you can do when that happens is to try to force the issue.
Don’t do it!
They pull away from women who they feel they cannot please, because a man
is genetically programmed to please and protect his woman from hurt and pain
as much as he can.
So, if you make your man feel that he is a big disappointment and nothing he
does makes you happy then of course he will feel like pulling away.
However, he does want to do these things because doing them makes his woman happy and makes him feel good.
It is self-directed and that is why nagging is so damaging to the relationship.
Trying to force him to do these things that should be expressed naturally will make your man feel trapped and the next step is that he starts to pull away from you and the relationship
What if you could learn how to communicate with you man so that instead of pulling away he would feel drawn to you and want to share his deepest feelings, desires and emotions with you.
No nagging or feeling left out of his life.
Just a secure and warm environment of mutual sharing and togetherness!
Would that help move your relationship to the next level?
Remember, a man will not pull away when you give him the number one thing every man craves from his woman.
Many women make the big mistake of thinking that just because her man doesn’t share his feelings with her that he has no feelings.
Men can be just as emotional as women are, they just seem to need a safer environment in which to do so.